The question was raised recently why celebrity sex molesters don't seem able to know how to apologize.
(I'm answering the question assuming the subject is a male molester who abused a female, which is not always the case.)
If they were (able to apologize), they would not have been sexual molesters.
When their date, employee, acquaintance, etc said "No, don't do that," the correct response of any decent civilized person in that situation would be: "Oh I'm sorry. My mistake."
They can't do that -- they can never admit they were or did something wrong.
So they need to
(1) Insist, "C'mon you know you like it."
or
(2) Diss the person: "What are you, some kind of a (a,b,c,d...) bitch, tease, crybaby, religious fanatic, man-hating lesbian, etc.
It doesn't matter why or how they got that way, but ok, my best guess is it may be something in their upbringing, something that mommy did that makes him think to EVER admit he did ANYTHING wrong would be followed by hideous punishment.
I once heard a woman, a mother, tell her son: "If you ever do something bad with a girl, I will cut your thing off."
Yikes.
But it doesn't matter why --
it's about whether or not they can control themselves and, if not, at least apologize.
They can't apologize because they're mental moral cripples.
Which is why they couldn't stop when she asked/told him in the first place.
They're so wounded they're total jerks. And they say it's not their fault.
Which, in that case means they can never be allowed to be free to smear their disease on every woman they encounter.
The cure might be help him to develop some empathy, probably in something like a prison where a person or persons who are larger and stronger and more aggressive than he is will take the time to provide a tutorial in which it is demonstrated to them just how that woman felt when she said "Please stop."
And as with anything to be learned, the repetition of the lesson over and over again will fulfill the principle that practice makes perfect.
As my late father used to say, slightly sarcastically: "It couldn't happen to a nicer guy."
(I'm answering the question assuming the subject is a male molester who abused a female, which is not always the case.)
If they were (able to apologize), they would not have been sexual molesters.
When their date, employee, acquaintance, etc said "No, don't do that," the correct response of any decent civilized person in that situation would be: "Oh I'm sorry. My mistake."
They can't do that -- they can never admit they were or did something wrong.
So they need to
(1) Insist, "C'mon you know you like it."
or
(2) Diss the person: "What are you, some kind of a (a,b,c,d...) bitch, tease, crybaby, religious fanatic, man-hating lesbian, etc.
It doesn't matter why or how they got that way, but ok, my best guess is it may be something in their upbringing, something that mommy did that makes him think to EVER admit he did ANYTHING wrong would be followed by hideous punishment.
I once heard a woman, a mother, tell her son: "If you ever do something bad with a girl, I will cut your thing off."
Yikes.
But it doesn't matter why --
it's about whether or not they can control themselves and, if not, at least apologize.
They can't apologize because they're mental moral cripples.
Which is why they couldn't stop when she asked/told him in the first place.
They're so wounded they're total jerks. And they say it's not their fault.
Which, in that case means they can never be allowed to be free to smear their disease on every woman they encounter.
The cure might be help him to develop some empathy, probably in something like a prison where a person or persons who are larger and stronger and more aggressive than he is will take the time to provide a tutorial in which it is demonstrated to them just how that woman felt when she said "Please stop."
And as with anything to be learned, the repetition of the lesson over and over again will fulfill the principle that practice makes perfect.
As my late father used to say, slightly sarcastically: "It couldn't happen to a nicer guy."
posted by Saintperle at
3:56 PM
